Some people think life following major change will be exactly the same as it was before.

What if it isn’t? Won’t you feel anxious, confused, disappointed?

Imagine a child who has to change schools – if you tell your daughter or son the new school is exactly the same as the old one, the teachers are just as nice and the kids play identical games, they will have very precise expectations as to the place. If, once at the new school, they realize the differences they may be disturbed and worried.

Of course we can strive to keep our environment as familiar as we can after change – decorate our new home or office in the same way the previous one was decorated, keep going out just like we did before the baby was born, visit the places we used to visit with our loved one who is no longer around – we can. However, to move on with our life we need to accept the change and let go of the past.

Easier said than done, you may say.

Well, allow yourself to actually “mourn” over the job you’ve lost, lover who’s left, house you’ve sold, country you’ve moved away from or in general the life you’ve had before.

Next time I will write about the stages of grief and all will become clear:)


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What do we fear most when a change in our life occurs? Why the words ‘What is it going to be like now?’ come to our mind right away?

Whether we have chosen to change or the change has happened to us, we will feel anxiety, worry, apprehension. Why is that?

We are afraid of the unknown. We are afraid to lose our bearings. What can these bearings be? The people that surround us, the design of the office or the house, the climate, the language – anything we are used to or familiar with.

Good news – you have the right to feel the fear, to be unsure, insecure – yes you do. As long as you don’t focus on these feelings, they won’t prevent you from moving forward.

And when you are ready to make the first step towards a change, tell yourself that although it is a new situation and it will take you time to get accustomed to it, you eventually will. And you will be so proud of yourself then. So be ready for this new challenge!

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A change occurs at one point of time, a transition describes the process of changing. We can say that it is a state, for example a childbirth would be classified as a change while becoming a mother will be more of a transition.

When you are at the origin of the change, if it is wanted, wished for, welcome, the transition will be easier to live.

Say you have decided to go to work for another company. Of course you may still find the transition challenging – you will have to get used to working with new colleagues, understand your new boss’s expectations, learn the office rules, etc. but as this it what you wanted, chances are you will enjoy it.

However, if you were made redundant and had to find a new job – you may experience serious difficulties getting  used to your new workplace, however great the professional opportunity.

This is because of what is called: resistance to change.


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WHAT CAN IT BE?  expatriation, parenthood, partnership, new job, redundancy – you name it. WHAT IMPACT CAN IT HAVE?

First things first – why have I become a life coach and why is my specialism “the management of change”

I have lived lots of changes – some of them I would classify as “revolutions”, others as simple “modifications”.
Born in Poland, I was a teenager when the country became a democracy. A big transformation that I was able to watch and to live. And that opened the borders, which made me a citizen of the world.
Some think we – ex Soviet block people – fled our countries to search for a better, more comfortable life. That was not my case – in travelling I could see an opportunity to develop an open mind, to learn about different cultures, to understand and respect other people and their customs. And when being able to travel wasn’t enough, I took part in Work and Travel USA programme, to actually experience living abroad.
I will come back on this experience at some point but let me just tell you how much acceptance, openness and humility it takes to work in a different country and use a foreign language every day. And how much I learned there!
After obtaining my MA in Japanese Language and Culture I left for Japan. Yes, the will of living a new experience abroad just simply wouldn’t leave me.
Japan, a land of contrasts and paradoxes, welcoming and hostile at the same time, where nature mixes with skyscrapers… Tokyo…a city that one cannot describe…
Living and working in this cosmopolitan yet traditional country was an extraordinary time, time I shared with my (still) other half. What a chance to meet someone that loves the change as much as I do! We got to know Japan pretty well as a couple and as a family since our son was born there. Which also means I lived a transition from a career-focused woman to a full-time mother. Did the fact of living in a country thousands of miles away from mine make this transition easier or more challenging? I will try to elaborate this subject later on. Today I can only say it was a humanly enriching experience and an extraordinary lesson of life.
After six years in Japan – a new major change – a move to France and a double challenge – learning the language and getting used to the country of my husband. And well, not an easy transition from Asia to Europe…
But then you are the master of your destiny, aren’t you? I quickly signed up for an intensive French course, got a job and life went on. And when I was on maternity leave after my daughter was born I started to think a lot about what I wanted to do in life. I knew helping others had a huge importance to me but helping through giving advice (I used to work in recruiting) just wasn’t enough. I could also feel the need of bringing my open-mindedness, my respect, my lack of judgement to my job. I did a lot of research and decided to become a personal development coach. After an in-depth reflexion my dream became a goal. When in 2012 after thorough studies I graduated and opened my practice – my goal became reality.
Eight years into living in France, we started feeling that a new challenge would be welcome. Needless to say that when my husband was offered the opportunity to move to London, we didn’t need more than five minutes to decide. Guess what, our 10 year-old son greeted the idea with lots of enthusiasm. He was immediately able to see the benefits of an experience abroad!
Now that we live in the UK we can say this transition has been a success, as far as our family is concerned. What impact will this experience have on our children? We’ll see that in a little while…
This blog will be about life changes – what they are, how we approach them, how to live successful transitions, how to know whether or not you need a change, and lots more, so please stop by whenever you wish.
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